Most leaders don’t lose control in the meeting, the conflict, or the deadline. They lose it in those first 3 seconds after stress hits. In that tiny window, your brain launches a reactive surge: fast, automatic, protective.If you don’t notice it, autopilot takes over. It fires your strongest old pattern:

There is a kind of exhaustion senior tech leaders know well.Not the physical tiredness. The kind that makes you feel a little unlike yourself. It shows up quietly: On the outside, you still look composed.Inside, it’s reactive, noisy, and chaotic. If this feels familiar, it makes complete sense.You’re not failing.

You used to feel clear-headed. Now it’s just noise — inside and out. Noise from the inbox. Noise from your own mind. Noise from a world that keeps shifting faster than you can steady yourself. Somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising who was doing the leading. Because you’re still showing

Autopilot is efficient — until it runs the whole flight. I remember those days.Outwardly calm.Inwardly strapped into a cockpit full of alarms. Handing out yeses like sweets.Ignoring my own capacity, time, and energy.Agreeing by reflex — even when it wasn’t wise. 2 a.m.Body in bed.Mind still mid-flight, switches stuck on.

Steadiness isn’t what you do in a Code Red.It’s who you’ve trained yourself to be. Ever been in a moment where everything around you feels like it’s spiralling — and you’re trying to stay steady? Back in my corporate days, that was my job:Critical Incident Management. When systems failed, emotions

The gold standard in driving people excellence over the last 40 years has focussed on time management – but given the demands of life and the way we are living, we can reap greater benefits from focussing on energy management. A couple of years ago Matthew Kelly’s shared some insights

Experiencing the loop? We all encounter challenges and unexpected hardships. Whether that be a health diagnosis, job issues, relationship break ups or anything else that seems to throw a spanner in our life plans. These scenarios can evoke all sorts of negative emotions, e.g. fear, anger, frustration, impatience, anxiety and

Growing up my bedroom didn’t look like your typical teenage girl’s room.  No posters of pop idols, instead the walls were covered with world wildlife posters. And on the back of my bedroom door a huge poster of Bruce Lee with his nunchuks. In the 80’s there was no Netflix,

Life is lived in rhythms. Our amazing human body has a sense of timing. And in alignment to a set of synchronized cyclic patterns goes about its daily business of keeping us alive and well. You may have heard about circadian rhythms? Over a 24 hour day, they regulate our

experienced these?  I have been reminded a few times this past week by my #linkedincommunityabout the delights of Japan, where I once lived. Given it’s the weekend, I found myself reminiscing about onsens  ♨️ Onsens are Japan’s geothermal springs, of which there are thousands to be enjoyed across Japan. Going to one